But with all its versatility it cannot all. Even if you are the representatives of one culture with one language, still sometimes there are situations about which we can say: "We speak different languages!"
Psychologists and simply observant people found that some signals from a person are to be using body language. It's funny that in this kind of "language" the individual may say something that is not even aware of myself! Some professionals believe that through the correct settings in the movements can be a programmed interlocutor in the desired fashion.
Psychologists in deciphering the human lie detector carefully watching his movements while answering questions. But even with a strong experience of experts deciphering the messages of body language not always true. Therefore, it is not necessary to speak about the universality and sufficiency of the exchange of information between people. Rather, it is suitable as a supporting, complementary. With some amendments to the national culture and stereotypes of many peoples body language can be attributed to international.
Creative works it is incorrect to call "language". However, they are quite powerful transmitters of information. It is no secret that the most valuable are the works in which through high-level equipment transferred to certain shades of feelings.
- We listen to good music and see pictures or feel the love, the bitterness, the longing.
- We are looking for a good dance — and read the same feelings.
- We look at a picture and feel something, not to convey with words, but we understand on some unknown level.
Creativity brings feelings directly to the senses, bypassing the logical signs. It seems that this feature enhances, sharpens sensations, thereby bringing wonderful pleasure. And what is especially nice, I work (besides writing) has no nationality.
Psychologists know another way to transmit information. It is the language of feelings. Perhaps the phrase "the language" to apply to the word "feeling" is not quite right. However, if feelings can "speak", it means that they have the language! And, most interestingly, broadcast and it can be read completely through all the ways of information transfer, including such "unreliable" and not scientifically proven the channel like intuition!
And that's not all. The language of the feelings understood by even the animals. Moreover, they communicate! The feelings they have, however, limited to instincts (fear, intuitive understanding of the situation, the sensations of the body). The language of feelings is so unusual and with the basic (one might even say, is primitive) and interesting that it is to dwell.
What a tiger trainer when trying to achieve the desired? First of all, the feeling of power and dominance. Inside of the trainer is obliged to be such a stud, such mental strength and courage that can win a willful and dangerous beast.
Of course, mental strength is not the only key to success. But this is the first, without which not even worth to start. His confident movements, daring look and more than the unknown man sends a signal to the animal:
— I'm stronger than you. You have to obey me!
And the animal knows it! It's his language. It is the language of sensations and feelings.
In order to find a common language with animals, it is not necessary to be a trainer. We don't notice in everyday life when dealing with pet using the language of feelings.
— Come here, my darling, come to me, my Fluff — affectionately calls the hostess your beloved cat. He understands her. It can work, even if she never called him by name. It reads special, intended only for him the intonation of the voice that conveys the feelings of a mistress towards the cat. Hearing in cats, by the way, is beautiful!
The dog, in contrast to a small domestic cat, more dangerous animal. Aggression can be directed at the person. The dog is a social animal. This means, in any society, it must gain a positive attitude.
And here, at the beginning of building relationships, a competent owner you must make it clear to the dog that it is below grade and the main here. Experienced handlers will tell you that the owner himself should feel his power. If the person is afraid of dogs and doesn't know how to overcome your fear, then it is highly undesirable to have a serious combative or service breed. Because fear is definitely considered and will be interpreted as weakness.
There are frequent stories in the stories of ordinary people about how they were threatened by a pack of dogs and in some magical, telepathic way they “told” animals that they should not be attacked. The man conveyed a feeling. Probably, courage was necessarily reflected in it, it meant: “I am strong! I have to be afraid! ”Probably, at the same time there was benevolence:“ But if you do not touch me, I will not harm you ”.
Feelings are transmitted and read by the very fact of their existence. And I think that our main task, as the most intelligent creatures on this earth — to learn to cope with their feelings. To live and let them go. Psychologists in solving the problems suggest paying attention to the tone and wording of messages — words. Indeed, some superficial conflicts can be resolved after one of the transmission channels of -- speech (words) and tone. However, if the feeling that causes the conflict remains, the conflict will be!
When the couple finds out the relationship and each "speaks their language", it is not about words. We are talking about feelings that everyone is trying to convey to partner. It's funny to get a translation of this conversation...
— Why are you hanging clothes and not straightened it, all wrinkled left?!
Her feelings saying, "I don't pay attention. The third day the emphasis is ignored. I feel really bad for this! Even the undies didn't hear me!"
And his feelings at the same time I hear: "You are a worthless person! Even with the cradle cannot cope!"
— It happened.
Her feelings hear: "don't bother me with your feelings — to me, they don't care."
But his feelings say, "Let's not develop the theme, need to calm down".
— What do you mean "it happened"? We repeatedly made the remark to the children, and themselves, it turns out the same!
Her feelings shouted: "I beg to draw attention to themselves, and you don't hear me always. I want you to hear me!"
His feelings hear: "You're worthless, worthless, worthless!"
— Why are you stuck?! I'm telling you, it happened! The next time you hang out is fine.
Her feelings hear: "Yes to spit I wanted on your requests! I have no time!"
His senses are screaming: "don't you dare to insult me! I didn't do anything wrong!"
It is noteworthy that in all conflicts people have hurt one and the same. And what exactly makes itself felt and in what forms is necessary to determine detailed work. In this example scenario, both partners need to be accepted and leniency from each other. This need could be called as "Nagging feeling that I'm not appreciated and I don't need it."
Understanding (decoding) of feelings and working with them is a separate issue that can be solved with the assistance of a psychologist or independent work. And it is important to understand that whatever we do, no matter what language or that, but our feelings are always with us. Looks like they rule them.